The Void and The Sun

"Moon of my Life."

Kahl Drogo

"My Sun and Stars."

―Daenerys Targaryen

What do you do when you sun, moon, and stars disappear from your sky? I am so sorry for not keeping this up. The last year has been very bad for Mr and Mrs Zebra. We have been waiting for my disability to come, and we got another denial letter, this time denial for an appeal. Mrs. Zebra had finally gotten into a therapist to cope with her anxiety, and as of Jan 1, had both health and mental health available. This is why we moved here: so we could both have the help we needed. But she couldn't hold on I guess. 

After planning Thanksgiving dinner with close friends, after holding me and telling me how much she loved me, after tell me I was "her big heater" and "I'll see you when you come home" after all of this, I found our home empty of the warmth and happiness that is my Mrs Zebra. Nothing but a note: "I am leaving you. I will not be back. I am safe." I have not heard from her since 9am on 11/27/13. She is avoiding everyone's calls and voicemails. I hope she really is safe. 

After speaking with our doctor, because we share one, all I could come up with was that she was more depressed than she let on. Maybe it is because she didn't want to bother me, or pull me down. I hope some day I will know. But when they changed her meds, she got so much worse. She must be in so much pain, because I know I am. I just want to hold her and stroke her hair and love on her. Her well being is all I care about. I only want to improve myself so I can be the pillar on which she can lean. I want to be her strength when she is weak. 

What do you do when your sun, moon, and stairs are suddenly gone from your life? The gaping maw of a black hole left when best part of you is ripped away with no explanation, no advance warning, and no immediate recourse? Without my love, my darling, I am a shell of a man, condemned to wander the endless void, looking for my lost soul mate. I know people say that you must be your own person, and I think maybe she lost herself in me, but I lost myself in her, weaving myself in her magical fibers, bathing in the wonderment that was her mind and body. When we touch, when I hear her smooth, silky voice, my world is complete. I can die happy each and every time she whispers in my ear "I love you. I will never leave you." She told me over and over I would never come home to this. But I am, and I am left to hope that she will contact me and someday, we can work this out. 

Almost 10 years of being with the most wonderful person I have ever known. She wasn't perfect, but I had learned and was learning to accept her for what she was, and in that she was perfect. -IS- perfect. The maw is so deep, it so fracturing my crushed soul, it feel as if she is lost for good. But if there is to be any repair of the bridge that connected our two hearts, she cannot come home to a broken man: the broken man who didn't realize he had become dependant on her to prop my illness up. No, not again. I am going to a therapist on Monday. I know he cant give me the answers I need. Only she can. But maybe he can help me find the man she married again, and present that to her again some day. Maybe she will get over her pain and anxiety, or learn how to communicate her feelings to those who want her to be happy. All I know for sure is I love her deeply, deeper than the deepest oceans, and I will not give up on us. I will give her the time she needs, and pray to whatever is out there to tell her I love her and miss her. 

What I know is that my sun, moon, and stars are gone. And the void is here. Deeper and darker than ever before. I want to tell her so bad, the feelings I have inside. To borrow from Staind:

My love, 

You're my world, the shelter from the rain
You're the pills that take away my pain
Youre the light that helps me find my way
You're the words when I have nothing to say

And in this world where nothing else is true
Here I am still tangled up in you
I'm still tangled up in you
Still tangled up in you

You're the fire that warms me when Im cold
You're the hand I have to hold as I grow old
You're the shore when I am lost at sea
You're the only thing that I like about me

And in this world where nothing else is true
Here I am still tangled up in you
I'm still tangled up in you

How long has it been since this storyline began
And I hope it never ends and goes like this forever

In this world where nothing else is true
Here I am still tangled up in you, tangled up in you
Im still tangled up in you
Still tangled up in you

Come back, my love, my wonderful wife. The best wife in the world, no matter how hard I was on you. I am working on that, I have been. I promise that I am fixing it. Cushing's or not, I will find a way to not let those rages affect you again. You saw I was working on it. I was getting better, and will get better. If disability wont help me, I will work what I can. I will provide a living for us. I will not let this sickness devour me anymore. I will do anything just to hold you in my arms. Please, my wonderful sweetheart, please talk to me. 

Without your love as my anchor, there is nothing but the void where our story ends. Please, dont let this end like a hollywood tragedy. Lets make this a sappy love story, where we both work on ourselves and come back and talk. Please?

If you can read this, my love, know I will keep the home fires burning. I will move mountains to be with you again. Whatever you need, as long as we can be together. I mean that. 

Good News Everyone!

Well, last week I saw my new (hopefully) doctor and did a follow up at Swedish. The new doctor is a natureopath who used herbs along with western medicine to treat illness. She wants me to try an herb from India that regulates adrenal function and cortisol. That sounded good until I went to Swedish.

At Swedish, they acted as if they actually believed me. They sent me home with a jug to pee in and told me that they wanted to try me on one of two medicines. Corcept and Signifor.

Here is the catch: I can get Signifor, a $25,000/yr drug, for free if I can prove I am having cushing's symptoms. If I get on Corcept, my health insurance is free. And from what I understand, signifor works better and is more long term. So, I dont know what will happen. NORD wants to cancel my insurance because they didn't tell me I had to be on any medication for the program I am enrolled in. So I will probably loose my access to medical care until I can get approved for charity care, but they don't cover lab work . Which is a big deal seeing as the original testing came to just over $25,000 (everything cushings related must be a multiple of 5) and the surgery was around $50k.

This week also saw two other good things. Well, sort of. A very good couple of friends who were domestic partners ended this part of their relationship and one moved in with us to get back on their feet. I don't transition well, but its been easier with them helping us with bills and house work. Its going to be a good thing. We also finally saw a raise in our food stamps. Substantial raise. I wont get into how much, but we don't have to worry about food for a while.

I cant get hold of the place I was applying for close to home. They wont even return my calls. So Im stuck driving an hour each day and its killing me. But all in all, it was a stressful but good week.

Thanks again for reading!

The Weary, and cautiously optimistic, Zebra. 

Tumor strikes unsuspecting bystanders

So a good friend decided to come see us after many months of fellowship over the phone and online, and check out the Seattle scene. We got him situated on Saturday, then took the day to rest, as we were all exhausted. Sunday, we decided to surprise him with a trip up Mt. Rainier, as Mrs. Zebra and I could share driving. Our good friend even paid for gas! Was a great trip!

Yesterday, I casually took him around Downtown Seattle, and had a great time. Very tired, but so much fun. But unfortunately Mrs. Zebra stayed behind and cleaned the house for our guest. But she wore herself out. She was ready for bed, and unfortunately had a bit of a hormone explosion and misunderstood what was to be a quick stepping out as an exit for the evening and let loose. He thought it was his fault and now is considering leaving early. I fucking hate this disease. It's why we have such few friends.

1 year post op: kick me while Im down why dont you?

Im sorry its been a while since my last update. Ive been so down and low in energy, and depressed that I just havent wanted to. That and I really feel like no one cares. 

Since my last update, I lost my insurance, and Mrs. Zebra lost her job thanks to the stalker and a co-worker dogging on her so much she snapped. Both of us are unemployed, both are sick. Im not sure what we are going to do, but we both feel we need to move west. Please, if you can, donate to help us move closer to Dr. Ludlum, by clicking the button in the upper left hand corner.

Last week, I had my 1year post op. I felt like crap all day after my Cortisol Stimulation Test, and couldnt get out of bed the next day.

I got a call from Dr. L's office today and I was kind of frustrated at it. Those of you who know what is going on with me might know why, but in a nutshell I had my pituitary slaughtered to rid myself of the tumor inside. They missed some, my numbers never crashed, and my pituitary never woke up again. In September, and January, same thing. I went to Seattle to do yet another CST, and now they are saying I have enough ACTH and cortisol to be life sustaining, but I still have Cushing's. My frustration comes from this: Later last week, I coudlnt get out of bed. Actually, I felt like crap all day Wednesday (the day of the test) and couldnt get out of bed Thursday morning either. So assuming Im still cyclical, and assuming my pituitary, until last week, was dead or zombified at least, wouldnt it be the TUMOR causing that? And if it is, is it really smart to be weening? How do we know if it is or not?

They want me to ween by 2.5mg a week, which is very slow. But last time I tried weening I ended up in the ER each time. I probably should have been in the ER last Thursday but I hadnt thrown up my stress dose (thanksAdrienne Brandstetter) and thats usually the point in which I go. What do you experts think? I know 20mg/day is high but if it is the tumor doing this, is weening off the steroids really that smart?

The pit is dead still, because Im not making GH or Testosterone either. The tumor is the only thing that could be making ACTH, even according to them. So why ween? If the tumor was "ON" that morning, even at a low enough level to look normal, I dont understand why that means Im ok to ween.

I hope this gets sorted soon, or I dont know what will happen.

Frustrated Weary Zebra

A rock and a hard place

Well, its been a rough road. Its been a while since I did an update so here goes.

First: after the six months post op, I am not completely better. In many ways, I am worse. But the docs told me to expect much of this and I was a bit to optimistic when I began this journey. We still do not know conclusively if I still have Cushing's. The MRI that was taken last week doesn't show any tumor left, but I still show many cushing's symptoms. We cant test to see if I still have it because I have a massive sinus infection since surgery and the last few months I have had to take massive amounts of steroids to just keep it at bay. Those would throw off any testing on my adrenals.

My pituitary still isn't working. I am low on several hormones, including testosterone and growth hormone. Because of this, I hurt all over and many of my systems are not working correctly, including my immune system.
And because of my sinus infection, I am due into surgery in the next few weeks. Thankfully it is local, at UT Southwest. But these guys dont like me much. Hopefully they will now, since I am going under THEIR knife. Its supposed to be as bad as my immediate post op from pituitary surgery. Fun stuff. Just found out today!

So hopefully none of this will affect me trying to get back to work. I miss cutting video and making graphics! I need to stay off of work, but waiting on disability will break us. We cant afford to wait years. Maybe I can find a loophole in the mean time.

More to come as it happens!

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5 Weeks Post Op

Well, it's 5 weeks after surgery. I got a call from my doc on Friday when I sent them an email about my last ween. The last ween I did, the morning after I was not functional at all. Mrs. Zebra and her father nearly dragged me to the living room to take my meds and eat. I honestly woke up an hour later, not knowing how I got there, in a great deal of pain. I sent my nurse practitioner an email about it.

My doc called and I explained it wasn't getting any better over the weens and that the NP kept pushing me. He told me I messed up a ween (not bad, just mis read it) and to go back one week. So I ended up actually going back 2 because I messed up on one. But Friday, I'm scheduled to ween again. Almost the same one: no evening dose. 

I think I still might have a small CSF leak, but it comes and goes. It didn't help either that I was battling an upper respratory infection. This whole this is still a huge struggle. I know almost for certain my pit is not awake yet. No libido at all, and I think my Growth Hormone is low. I won't get that checked until September. I just hope AFLAC pays soon so we can get plane tickets.

My taste isn't 100% back, but much better. Smell too, sometimes I wish my smell was still gone! My lengthy visits to the rest room are not fun at all! Try being so constipated that you have to push hard CAREFULLY, then right after the plug is loosed, having the runs so bad, a Bantha would run from the smell. Sorry. Just a fact of life for me now. And so weak still. And people stil want me to do this and that. And in 110° heat! No way! I can't wait to explore life after cushing's. 
Mrs. Zebra is scared though. Mostly, because she is afraid we won't be able to have kids now. I just tell her that we will cross that bridge when it come and if worst comes to worst, there are so many kids out there that need moms and dads. God may have some picked out for us. It's hard dealing with my own hormonal and emotional issues, but to have to deal with both of ours is harder. Then again, she has had to do the same. Neither one of us stands straght up, we lean on each other. And it if it were not for her, and all of you readers, I could not have made it this far. Now, its nap time!

The Weary Zebra

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3 weeks post op

Im sorry I have not posted in a while. I have been so tired and sick lately I just have not had the energy. 

Mrs. Zebra and Dad-in-Law really pushed me the first few weeks to get out and do more and well intended as they were, I think I way over did it. I ended up in the hospital last week for a CSF (Cerebrospinal Fluid ) leak. I started dripping in a restaurant and that evening I was being transported from UT Southwestern ER to their Neuro ICU. Thats where I met the real reason I went to Swedish and Dr Ludlum/Mayberg instead of here. Once they found out I traveled to Seattle for my surgery, the docs became hostile and wanted to change up all my meds, and got really mad when I asked them to talk to the doctors whom care for me currently! I couldn't get the drip to reproduce but my drainage got worse. All the while, I am weening off my hydrocortisone which is the only thing standing between me and another trip to the ER. In fact, every morning between 2am and my 8am dose, I get to experience Adrenal Insufficiency. They dont worry because Im sleeping and its for a short time. And using this, its supposed to jump start my pituitary and so far it hasn't worked. 

So, friends, family, etc. I really cant go anywhere anymore. I had brain surgery. I look fine, but in the past week, I had a CSF leak and started bleeding internally again. I did way too much. Im sorry. I dont mean to disappoint you guys but my daily workout has been going to the bathroom in time to make it. If I have to, Ill start wearing bandages around my head. But feel free to come over and visit. Lord knows Im up for that! The apt is clean and you can move around it! And we do need some help with stuff. And just to come over and hang would be cool. But Mrs. Zebra canceled her old plans for my birthday this week and so far the plan is just for you guys to come over and hang out. She will have more details tonight. Thanks for understanding. If it helps, pretend I have cancer! 

I ween again tomorrow. The last one was scary, this one is even scarier. Keep me in your thoughts. For now, Im off for a nap. Doc appointment wore me out. Thanks Mike! You really came through!

The (very) Weary Zebra

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Post Op Day 9

The last nine days have been like nothing I have ever been through in my life.

I must first apologize for being so late on my update. I have been relying on Mrs. Zebra to update friends and family but she has been exhausted the last few days as have I. Spending more than 20 minutes looking at a computer monitor makes me physically ill. This is problematic since my only link to the outside world is social networks like Facebook, Twitter, and the Cushing's Support site.

On Tuesday, July 13th, 2010 my life changed forever. At least I believe that it did. I had 70% of my pituitary gland taken out to ensure the remaining 30% was tumor free. The surgeon, Dr. Marc Mayberg, believes beyond a shadow of a doubt, that he took all of the tumor out. The part that worries me, and to a smaller extent the doctors, is that my cortisol numbers DID drop below 2.0, but did not stay there. I have not had my levels checked since I was discharged that Friday, but it feels like I did crash and stay low since then. Let me tell you, the surgery is touted to be a simple one from a neurosurgeon's standpoint but is nothing short of hell. I woke up to crushing pain from my head, and the Diabetes Insipidus was already flushing my body of liquids. Every part of my body was heavy and ached. Every sound was like an ice pick into my skull as was every beam of light. Blood freely flowed from my nose as did Cerebrospinal Fluid. Thankfully the two CSF leaks I had quickly healed themselves. Then came more blood. During surgery, blood drained into my stomach. It came back up. Mrs. Zebra said walking into my room was like walking into a horror film. I was screaming for help because I had to use the restroom and I was bleed everywhere. All of this masked the pain from my abdomen for days, where they took fat to plug my pitutary cavity. This surgery is something that, unless completely necessary, I do not ever want to go through again. It was as if all the years of suffering were boiled down and injected into my head at once.

This is but about 1/3 of what came up. They dumped the other two before Mrs. Zebra took this.

The light and sound sensitivity were present right up through my discharge, but one other side effect that was not explained to me still lingers. I can not smell or taste anything but sweet and sour. Spice is an acid so its effects are felt, as well as the effects of salt, but nothing else. This makes every meal very depressing. 

Each and every morning is hard to get up, worse than my "crashes" before and now that I have started steeping down on my medicine I shiver under my covers from being cold. For the first time in my life, the air conditioning at night is too cold for me. I am not complaining, mind you, just amazed. Between my lows in the morning, my aches and pains all day, and my cold at night, at least for the moment I think my Cushing's is finally behind me. 

I take steroids to help me function through the day. Dr. Ludlum gives high doses of Cortef to start, 30mg three times a day. Enough to give me back my Cushing's if stayed on too long. So he instructs to ween by 10mg every 4 to 7 days. I started my first ween Tuesday, day 7 after surgery and 4 days after I started surgery, so I did. I felt it for sure that night. I slept much better than I ever have. Last night, the only thing that woke me up was the nausea that ripped through my body. Not enough to make me throw up, but close. Each day I am vigilant in looking for signs if Adrenal Insufficiency. What worries me is that I truly dont know what A.I. is like because I dont know if I truly every felt it. What is A.I. and what is nausea from drainage from the never ending head cold I have now?

Besides the drainage, and the nausea, the fatigue is more than I could have anticipated. Even on the high doses of steroids, just getting up to use the restroom that is 25ft MAX away from my spot on the couch is enough to make me feel weak and tired. Milk jugs, water pitchers, even my Macbook Pro are way to heavy to carry further than a few feet. This makes dealing with every day events hard. Especially the fact that my Diabetes Insipidus is just barely under control. 

My days since arriving back home have consisted of resting and letting Mrs. Zebra's Father help with cooking, cleaning, and the like. He has been a huge help and when he leaves he will be missed more than he realizes. He is giving both myself and Mrs. Zebra a much needed break. For now, I focus on healing and fixing the vast sums of medical bills that come in. $100K just for testing is a bit much, but it is getting take care of. Mrs. Zebra is next. Hopefully she can either get on the new state insurance plan paid for by the new federal law or we will have to do something drastic. She is showing more and more symptoms of this dreaded disease every day. It is a horrible disease, and an almost as equally horrible ordeal for remission. I wish this only on those who refute it's existence or refuse to understand what living this way is like. It is nothing to wish for. My net time is about up for now. Time for a nap.

The Weary Zebra

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Communication Disconnect

Today's blog comes to us from a good friend in the Washington area. Hopefully we will see her when we go to Seattle in 2 weeks. 

With Cushing's, there can be a huge disconnect with how we process information both input and output, especially while talking. That is why I usually like to email or instant message, or even text instead of talking on the phone or talking face to face. It has always been like this as long as I can remember, but with the tech revolution it has been easier for me to communicate my thoughts and feelings to people with tech ability. Below is what my good friend said to me, and I agree whole heartedly.

"Whenever I have to wait somewhere I organize (everything) it and write notes to myself so that when I get on the phone with these people I don't sound like an idiot. They get so irritated when you overstate what you need. I sometimes will tell them in advance when they answer. "listen..before we start I want you to know I have a brain tumor. This kind of tumor affects my thought process in a way that I can't articulate myself with a short explanation and a long explanation may even miss the point so please bear with me. It also affects me in a way that I am exhausted most of the time and I'm easily stress because I lack the proper stress and energy hormones so some of these issues weren't addressed in a timely manner. Is it possible for us to do this through IM, email, fax or snail mail so that I can get the assistance I need from another person or have time to think out your response and my answer?" I USUALLY get a decent response.

I think that when they mention that people with Cushings become reclusive that this communication problem is part of the reason. What I've noticed is that people with Cushings seem to have above average intelligence and most of us do more in a day than the average Joe does in a week - when we're sick- when we're not sick we can fit a month ... See Moreinto a week. But when we're sick something misfires in our processing. Whatever step happens between the information going out or coming in gets garbled in transition. We CAN understand and we KNOW what we want to say or do but it theres a pause for us. It makes us seem like we don't know what they mean. Most of the people around me get frustrated because they are accustomed to me being sharp. They're already talking about something else by the time I get my original response out. Some even get mad because they think I'm not paying attn. Some get frustrated because I subconsciously just keep talking while I'm waiting for the real answer to come out in order to keep them from changing the subject or having a long awkward pause or just hoping that whatever comes out will include the answer. so...I just dont start or get involved in intelligent conversations because I'm so slow."

The Weary Zebra and Friends

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Cushing's Study Today

Well, I go to the Cushing's study here in Dallas tonight. I was asked to write about when my symptoms first started, how Cushing' s has affected my life, and explain two instances where Cushing's has made life difficult. These questions were to get me thinking about this for the interview tonight. And the answers have to match. Thats what they said in the instructions. If they didn't match, I wouldn't get paid. The obviously have never met a Cushie before.
Anyway, I was also told to make a collage to help explain to someone what Cushing's means to me. What it is like. I couldn't fit it all on the 17X11" paper I used, but most of its on there. So I thought I would share it with you all. Maybe you all will have fun guessing what they all mean?

The Weary Zebra

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Errands and Pride

I wont lie. I hate mundane shopping. I love cool shopping. Shopping for gadgets, computer parts, movies, action figures (don't judge me!), costume parts, etc. But shopping for clothes sucks (I cant wear most of the cool stuff, but Big and Tall is getting some cool stuff. Will post pics of dork pants later!), and grocery shopping kills me.
Two days ago, I had to make yet another quick trip to Wal-Mart. This weekend, we need to make a list of stuff we need. Anyway, everything was grocery except the Miracle-Gro. Funny they come in singles, like Kool-Aid. My mother always used to say she fed us the stuff. And the way the store is laid out, all the plant stuff is on the other side of the huge store. So I grab a cart and head that way. Now, I remind you that even though I have had Cushing's for 18 years, my symptoms have only gotten really bad the past 3-5 years. I used to pull 10 of these carts in at a time with rope hundreds of times a day. When I was a cart pusher at this same store, I could push 100 of them with two guys helping and one to steer. I didn't make it half way to the other side of the store with ONE empty car before I had to stop and rest. I was pouring sweat and ached all over like I HAD pulled 10 of these. You can imagine what it was like when I got it this full. This was most of it. I juts got some fresh veggies and checked out at the self check out.
When my back was out, I had no problem using the electric carts. And to some degree, it is still out. But I didn't want to use the stupid things again. This trip showed me that I just might have to the next time.
Or just drive my smart inside.

The Weary Zebra

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Is Blood Thicker Than Water?

The newest and one of the worst possible symptoms of Cushing's disease: Relationships suffer.

I am very blessed to have a wonderful, understanding wife. I dont know if she would understand what I am going through if SHE were not going through it too. I need to get her on to talk about her struggles. Anyway, this month is the one year anniversary of my mother passing away. Shortly after, in July, we found out that I probably had Cushing's. Since then, family has been growing ever distant. Some even expressed they wanted me to die and stop making Mrs. Zebra suffer (paraphrasing). It has been a rough year, but you would think that a tragedy such as my mother passing would bring the family closer together. In fact, I don't think anything has changed, if it hasn't gotten worse.
My brother, whom can be the coolest guy ever, seems to ignore that I am sick. I dont know if it for his own mental health (very likely) but a little acknowledgment would be nice. He DID invite me to a local concert which was great but I had to work and I don't think I would have had the energy. Its not saying much, but we are actually closer to each other now than growing up, but he is 5 years younger than me and we never got along that well. He was the spoiled brat and I had to work twice as hard for every bit of attention I got. He is still spoiled, but he is enjoying being single, and no bills. Be he is so wrapped up in his own life, he just glazes over me or anything I say.
My dad is the kindest person I think I have ever known. He is really my step father, but I only know that as a title. He married my mother in April of 1989, 5 months before my brother was born, and took me in as his own. We had struggles with my mother got sick 10 years ago, and he made some mistakes. But after my mother died, and seeing the personal hell he went through, I forgave him. But now that he is alone (his girl friend left, now the loneliness hurts again-been there, done that) he has withdrawn. He doesn't know what to do about me and he live far enough away that its hard to get out there. I know he cares, but he seems helpless and withdrawn. And he cant fix it like he fixes my car! So that suffers. NOTE: He is not blood related, very important

My sister.... To start, my sister did not live with us. She lived with her father, my mother's second or third husband, in Kansas while she was in Tulsa, OK. It wasn't until we all moved to Texas that I even remember meeting her, and barely. She was always around, but never too involved. One summer, she came to stay with us and found out how good she had it back home. She always resented our mother for making sure she would be taken care of. I think she saw me as an extension of my mother and resentment was transferred. She promised for years she would come hand out with my brother and I, but she was 16 and I never held it against her. Others did, but when I was that age, and a but older, I knew better than to promise those things. I learned why she was so busy! When she had her kids, they were hardly ever allowed over to visit us. But she was always there in the background. She even helped with our wedding. Helped isn't the right word. She MADE SURE the church was well decorated and stayed late that night, and after the wedding the next day to clean it up as her gift to us. I will always remember that. But she got really distant after that. Im not sure what happened. We go over and visit, and after about an hour, the air would get thick and we felt uncomfortable. Then my mother got sick, her and my sister fought for nearly 5 years and I finally got her to visit our mother. My sister took over when our mother passed. I didn't even have a chance to panic.
I really thought that this would be what brings the family close. She shut herself off from everyone. When I got out of the ER in July, we went over to try to catch the tail end of the July BBQ, but it was too late. So we told her then what we had found out. At christmas time, we told her about the information we had gathered. In February, we told her about the tests I was doing in Dallas, and the doc in Seattle. I emailed and messaged her, and when I got the courage to call, it would always go to voice mail. Now a days, I really feel shy on the phone.
All this time, no calls. No emails, no social network posts. She reads my posts, she told me so. But nothing. Even when we told her we were in Seattle, she said she didnt know. And that was that. It bugged me enough that I messaged her as to why this was going on. I have a brain tumor, but it is nothing as bad as leaving her husband and kids or "possible" cancer (which we talked about and prayed over wit her) or her hysterectomy (we visited her in the Hospital for that one too). And she starts this pissing war about how bad her life is living on her own for the first time and how I need to feel bad for her! I just want acknowledgment! I want her to be my sister! And today, she tells Mrs. Zebra that she never wants to talk to me again (3rd time in so many years).
My uncle refuses to talk to me, and my aunt is kind enough to drop a line every once in a while. She's got her own medical case to deal with.

So my own flesh and blood, sans my aunt, has seen fit to practically, and literally, disown me. Because of this damn tumor in my head. 18 years of dealing with it, and all of a sudden relationships die. This isn't even including all the friends I have lost. But friends come and go.
My inlaws, while they used to want me to forget about this disease and kick it, are coming around. My father in law is offering to help me around the house while in remission.
But my own flesh and blood disowns me.
My step father and in laws step up how they can but even they only can do so much. I haven't felt this betrayed since my mother kicked me out of the house 7 days before I left for boot camp. Even then, people not related to me took me in.
Sorry this one was a novel. I just needed to get it off my chest. Hell of a way to start my week.

Back to work...

The Weary Zebra
WRITER'S NOTE:
Ok, so no one is reading the posterous blog I post this to first for connivence, so Im throwing away the Zebra Snippet thing. For those of you who don't know, I use posterous.com to post my blogs when Im not able to really get to blogger easily. I can just email the blog post, after composing it for as long as I need to, then come back to blogger to add my tags. Sorry, not relevant to the update, but it popped in my head that I needed to clarify that.

Also, Yes, I have insurance now, but not having insurance for such a long period of time, and not having it when I started this blog, gave me the idea to not only show how hard it can be to live with this disease, but to do it with out access to proper medical care here in the states, and what it would cost to do it cash and carry. My wife does not have insurance, and she will start testing soon for Cushing's.
Thanks Beth!

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Official Diagnosis and Surgery

Well, I got the call today....

I knew it was important when they called Mrs. Zebra first, and conferenced me in. Kind of like when you are called into the principal's office and your mom is standing there when you walk in the door... yea, that kind of stomach turning nervousness... but I knew what he was going to say. Why so nervous...

I went to the back and Dr. Ludlum got on the line.

His pauses as SOOOO long...

He starts off by asking me how I felt toward the end of the week. Truth be told, I don't remember. Its been a week, and I didn't sleep that week... but I remember it wasn't great, and I was up late against my will, red face, stripes, etc. Apparently, my tumor turned off about Thursday. My dex reaction was high normal. My UFCs from Monday through Wed were 150, 180, 190 (take that OLD PCP DOC!) but my IPSS didnt show anything. Except..

long pause

The tech said he wouldn't trust the numbers if they came out normal. He said my left sinus cavity is way to large, and will throw the numbers off, lowering them. And it did. Made them normal.
Long pause

Then he said that the UFCs should be enough to officially diagnose me. His exact words were, "You have The Cushing's" And my world stopped. My journey for a cure only really started this year and already I have a diagnosis. It is elating, but t the same time I feel guilty that so many others fight for years for it. But he wasn't done. He said he needs a bit more proof. My CT of lungs and abdomen look good, and he wants another Dex test, but wants an Octreotide scan to show any tumors. Kind of proving that it isn't anywhere else!
Now the problem is financing. Our savings is blown, tax return gone. I will get a bit of cash when we go to the convention in early June from our hotel mates, but we might need more. And... Mrs. Zebra cant come that first week. If she did, she would miss surgery because she would have to go back to work. And the Inn, while less expensive than a hotel, costs us more in rent for two weeks. So we ask for prayers and if you have any donations you would like to give, I will be attaching a paypal button on the blog. Its easy and you can use a credit card or checking account. Anything is appreciated.

So, here we go again....

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Zebra Snippet 6: Alone

I think its #6 anyway. Im not looking right now. Probably have 10 #6s up there right now. It shows how stupid I can be. This is what I wanted to talk about. The depression. I think I mentioned it in an earlier one, and if so don't bother reading this one. A reader told me on twitter that I have inspired her to blog. Well, Im glad it helped someone. I try. Sometimes I dont think I make any sense, or make any difference. I feel so alone sometimes. Like right now. My cortisol is high, I know that, but my hormones are crazy and I feel so down. Like I am alone in the world. Like the people online are so far removed, and my family doesnt understand or is avoiding me because of my illness. I just want to die when I get this feeling. And the only thing that gets me through the day is the knowledge that its hormonal. Its hard to remember with any kind of rational thought that all the feelings are wrong. That people do care about you. That your skin will stop crawling, that the cat that you see isn't really there, that the nightmares will one day stop. Its hard.
This is to anyone that finds my blogs helpful in any way: Make a comment if you can. A little feedback goes a long way. 21 days until I go to Dr. Ludlum's Cushie Camp. I just want the elephant off my chest and to feel human again.

The Weary Zebra

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The Porcelain God

This is what I saw most of yesterday. Well, this isn't MY toilet, but you get the picture. It all started Sunday night. I think I overworked myself when I got my "high" by doing some major cleaning. Well, trying to anyway. Moving furniture, boxes, my wife yelling at me to stop. I should have listened. I got light headed and laid down. About 10 min later, I couldn't move. It hurt to breathe. I was nauseous, dizzy, and confused. I figured I had just done too much so I went to sleep.
By 6am yesterday, I was puking my guts up. I had to about three times before I left out the door for work. A little cola and I was fine for a few hours, then visited the porcelain god four more times in 4 hrs. I couldn't concentrate on work so I left and spent the entire day in bed, trying to either sleep or find out if this was a bug, or a sign I have cyclical cushing's.
I read later that evening if I put 1/4 teaspoon of 1% hydrocortisone cream (anti-itch) that if I was having Adrenal Insufficiency symptoms, it might help pull me out. SO after throwing all day, thats exactly what I did. And about 30 min later, I had an appetite (small one, but it was there), and I didn't feel as achey or dizzy. I don't believe in coincidences, but Im still not 100% this morning. I guess either way, its Cushie. Either its cyclical, or just bad immune system. Oh well. Hopefully, Dr. Ludlam's office will get a hold of the insurance company and I can be on my way to a cure.

The Weary Zebra
 

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Day For Night

Do you see what time I am posting this? Yes, I am up that late. My heart is pounding, my chest hurts and I am WIDE AWAKE! The last week, I probably have slept less than 10 hrs. I cycle really hard, and seem to do it randomly, although I am just starting to figure all this out. When I THOUGHT I had figured this out, I was awake at night, starting about 8pm, until 2am or so, and tired all day. This week? It was like my adernals said, "HOLD UP! Lets throw him for a loop!" This week, I have been at least fairly wired durring the day (and except for the brain fog and innatentiveness, it was mostly great. One day was really painful, but ok otherwise), then would go into a lull around 6pm until close to 9pm. Then the high started until 2am! Couldnt sleep well from 2am-6am then it was time to get up. I probably got up every hour each night.

Then today, I got to sleep in (well, I mean Saturday)!

I was able to fall asleep around 3am, and slept preaty badly until 5:30am. Then it was nightmares (not usual for me to dream) until I woke in a panic at 9:45! My chest already hurt, pulse was high, and I was already angry. I was ticked off all teh way until 1:30pm, when my low started. I had to run errands till 3:00 pm, at which point, I passed out for a few hours.

Now Im up again. I *LOVE* not sleeping! At least I had something construtive to do earliler. And the rest of my time has been spent wondering why my ice machine hates me! I cant function in this world like this anymore! I need to get a diagnosis soon.

Speaking of: I got my first UFC back early Friday morning (yep, was up when I got the email at 3am). It shows I have Cushing's. I emailed the endocrinologist I saw, since I dont have his number, and have not heard from him yet. And I called the Swedish institute and am waiting on a call from them and a couple of studys. Not if we can my wife on the same road to a DX! Getting sleepy finally so G-Night!

Zebra Snippet #2: Cushie Meter?

Again, if you have a better idea what to call these short updates, let me know.

I had a bad attack last night, and another one this morning, though not as bad. If you read my other blog, the one on blogger (this is reposted to that one too) you will know of my "purple rage". As I learn more about this disease, I have noticed three things that happen when I get panicky/mad/frustrated/high: 1) my face flushes nearly every time, 2) my stripes turn red/purple, and 3) so do the "dots" on my arms and back. I have a built in cortisol or "Cushie" meter. Its weird to those who don't know me, and to those who have known me for a while, its just an explanation. So when I start to feel the rush of hormones, I just check my "meter" like most check their watch. Because I don't wear a watch. I sweat too much. Wow, that was a bit random. Happy Monday.

The Weary Zebra

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